The Trials and Tribulations of Turning 30
I never used to understand why people get depressed around their birthdays. I mean it’s YOUR day to spend however you please and everyone gets to celebrate YOU. Well, I’m turning 30 this year and I finally understand what they feel. So I wanted to dedicate today’s post to understanding those birthday blues and what we can do to combat them.
Usually, I spend the entire month of May celebrating my birthday with mini shopping sprees, brunch with my girlfriends, endless dinners, and a nice handbag. But this year, maybe because I was so busy traveling, that the month just kind of flew by and here we are.
The birthday blues are a real thing and I finally understand. Here are a few of the causes I found on the internet and in this article:
- Being upset over aging another year
- Being disappointed by not having expectations met by a birthday party, celebration or gifts
- Feeling unsatisfied with accomplishments since the previous year or previous birthday
- Denial about your age or being upset over aging another year
- Societal expectations and pressure
- Expectations to have an epic “happy” birthday
- A feeling of failure
- Dysfunctional family dynamics
I can definitely relate to a few of these. When I was in my early 20’s I thought I’d be married with a house a few kids by the time I hit 30. HAHAHA. Yea, THAT didn’t happen. But it doesn’t bother me because I am not in a rush to get married and I cannot even imagine having kids right now.
I am also not afraid to admit I am 30. Sure, I don’t have the alcohol tolerance or hang-over bounce back that I used to. But the confidence I have today versus my earlier years way outweighs the benefits of youth.
I think my birthday blues are a combination of the following:
- Societal AND personal expectations: I thought I would be much farther along in my career by now. I am insanely hard on myself. However, I have to remember that I only started blogging full-time just one year ago and building a company takes years, not months.
- I didn’t end up planning a big dirty thirty birthday bash with all my friends to some far off land like I thought I would. Instead, I ended up going to Paris (blog post here) and it was amazing.
- Missing my dad. My dad died about 3 and a half years ago, and for some reason, my birthday is just not the same without him.
But even with these birthday blues of turning 30, I am still going to make the most out of my special day. Just know that if you feel this way around your birthday you are not alone and here are a few ways to combat those blues:
- Take charge of your birthday and let everyone know it’s your special day.
- Make plans for your birthday for what YOU want to do. It’s your day. If you want to binge watch TV and eat a chocolate cake to yourself then, by all means, DO it. I just want to get dressed up and have a nice dinner with my man.
- Write down all the things you are thankful for. I’m thankful for my family, friends, health, this blog and all of you to share it with.
- Buy yourself something nice. I do this every year and it’s one of my favorite things. This year it was a trip to Paris, last year it was this amazing handbag.
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